Who The Hell Told You That You Can’t ?


You hear it all the time. You can’t !

Your family members tell you you can’t. Your best friends tell you you can’t.

Just who the hell do they think they are?  You have tried everything you can think of.

The anxiety is overwhelming. The clutter has taken over your life.

You have reached the end of your rope.

Even you can’t stand it any longer.

Who the hell told you you cant?  YOU DID !   You spoke those words in silence to yourself.

You allowed the chaos to take over.

Never in a lifetime would you have admitted that to anyone. But, you admitted it to yourself.

The first step has been taken.  With your eyes finally opened you decided to get through the clutter, clean  up the mess and throw out the trash and begin to live a life you had only imagined.

Do you realize the importance of the decision you have made?

Oh, you hadn’t intended for it to happen, I know. but it  slowly took your life over one small step at a time until it just didn’t matter anymore.

First you just bought a few extra cans or boxes of food. Or did you just not throw out the junk mail and let it pile up?

Maybe you thought you would throw out the trash later, but didn’t. The dirty dishes in the sink could wait to get washed until you finish watching your favorite television show. You never got around to it did you?

It took a long time to realize that the only thing holding you back was yourself.

That realization has made a huge impact.

You are looking at the chaos and clutter in a new way.

With new eyes you are slowing seeing the need to organize your life in a way that you can manage. There are many ways for you to help yourself if that is what you truly want.

email me at    hoardnot@yahoo.com    and I will walk you through some simple steps to start your journey out of the chaos.

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The Hell With New Years Resolutions !


You made a few resolutions about cleaning up and de-cluttering.

It was difficult and you had the best intentions however, being the people that we are it’s not easy.

Screw it. Don’t give it another thought.

Today is a new day and anything you wanted to do in January you can start today.

Lets start with the closets. All your clothes need to be removed and made into stacks of dresses , skirts , pants and tops

As much as you hate parting with things there are probably a few things that are out dated or just don’t fit.

Theses clothes you can easily pass on to a friend or donate to a shelter.

If it’s a favorite outfit but doesn’t fit keep it in a photo.The outfit doesn’t take up room and you can still see it and enjoy it.

Resolutions are meant to be broken. At least you are on the right track now

It can be done.

Remember my frogs? I did it. So can you. There is no doubt in my mind that if you set you sights on cleaning the closet you will.

Don’t bite off more than you can chew. One step at a times will get you there. This is not a marathon.

Let me know when you’re all done.

Easy ? No !


 

Easy isn’t what it’s going to be. Fun?  Maybe.

You knew that being by yourself was going to be a challenge , so no crying or pouting.

Life is too damn short for recriminations.

Look, you lost your partner , it’s not fatal.

He left you for someone else, divorced you, even died.. There is not a thing you can do about it. Even if there were would you go back?

There are many  questions that you may never get an answer to. That being said, I say, the hell with it. Rehashing old news isn’t going to get you your partner back.

Remember if he left you for another person he went willingly. No one can take from you a partner that doesn’t want to go.

I know, you said such & such or did such and such..Who cares at this point.

You are alone and need to think of yourself and your future.

There will be many things out there that you don’t expect. Dating after being with a partner , man or woman is not how it was many years ago.

Get ready to think differently and perhaps act differently..

If you have any questions email me @ dateingafter50plus@gmail.com

Or for you brave souls, leave your comment here.

You havent dated in weeks


 

You haven’t had a date in weeks. So what. No, I am not nuts. Alone is a good thing sometimes.

Being alone can be fun as well as a time to re-evaluate what it is you’re looking for.

For now call all your gal pals that you (mistakenly)  left behind for the  last guy you dated.

Get together and do some fun things.

Think about reinventing yourself into a man magnet.

What is it you’re looking for in a man? Write it down.Think it through.

All is not lost when we don’t have a steady man in our lives.That goes for me too.

Been there, done that just like you.

Alone is a time to grow up into what you want to be.

Ladies you need to realize your true value.

We are all beautiful in some way .When you meet the right man he will make you feel that way.

Stay tuned..Any questions?

Bring them on..Or if you like email me at  datingafter50plus@gmail

Ladies this email is NOT only for older women, it applies to all women. Have at it..

For you brave souls leave your questions here.

No date in sight?


You haven’t had a date in weeks. So what. No, I am not nuts. Alone is a good thing sometimes.

Being alone can be fun as well as a time to re-evaluate what it is you’re looking for.

For now call all your gal pals that you (mistakenly)  left behind for the  last guy you dated.

Get together and do some fun things.

Think about reinventing yourself into a man magnet.

What is it you’re looking for in a man? Write it down.Think it through.

All is not lost when we don’t have a steady man in our lives.That goes for me too.

Been there, done that just like you.

Alone is a time to grow up into what you want to be.

Ladies you need to realize your true value.

We are all beautiful in some way .When you meet the right man he will make you feel that way.

Stay tuned..Any questions?

Bring them on..Or if you like email me at  datingafter50plus@gmail

Ladies this email is NOT only for older women, it applies to all women. Have at it..

For you brave souls leave your questions here.

 

Starting Ain’t Easy, But its Gotta Get Done


Easy isn’t what it’s going to be. Fun?  Maybe.

You knew that being by yourself was going to be a challenge , so no crying or pouting.

Life is too damn short for recriminations.

Look, you lost your partner , it’s not fatal.

He left you for someone else, divorced you, even died.. There is not a thing you can do about it. Even if there were would you go back?

There are many  questions that you may never get an answer to. That being said, I say, the hell with it. Rehashing old news isn’t going to get you your partner back.

Remember if he left you for another person he went willingly. No one can take from you a partner that doesn’t want to go.

I know, you said such & such or did such and such..Who cares at this point.

You are alone and need to think of yourself and your future.

There will be many things out there that you don’t expect. Dating after being with a partner , man or woman is not how it was many years ago.

Get ready to think differently and perhaps act differently..

If you have any questions email me @ dateingafter50plus@gmail.com

Or for you brave souls, leave your comment here.

 

 

 

 

How The Hell Do I do This Again?


You say you can’t?  I say you can. You have read my postings before and know that I repeatedly tell you, yes you can. Dating  again is no different.

Did you think you could go back to thinking as you did when you dated back in the day?

Update !….Things have changed since your last date many years ago.

You’re going to have to up your game plan as well as change your attitude about all the right and wrong things about dating.

For one thing , you will have to reinvent parts of your thinking.. Difficult?  Really?   Did you think everything was going to just fall in your lap because you want it to ?

The reality is that you may have become out of touch with the dating scene.

With just a few tweaks you could be ready though.

 

Now What Do I Do?


Now What Do I Do?.

Now What Do I Do?


You have no idea where to start do you?

What the hell are you going to do now that your single?

Throw a party?  Hmmmmm, that’s an idea…Not.

What you can do is get the hell out of the pity party..Please !

This doesn’t do you a damn  bit of good.

Sure , you can hide under the covers and cry your heart out, but then what?

You will still be in the same place……….alone.

Get use to it..Say it to yourself…..I am alone.

You shouldn’t be afraid of being alone. It can be a bit intimidating but certainly not scary.

Alone can be a good place to be in.

We are going to talk about that next time you drop by. Till then. Stop the self pity please. If you need to get in touch with me email me at datingafter50plus@gmail   or leave your question or comment here.

Your friend,

Marie

ALONE IS NOT TERMINAL


You got a divorce….he walked out….he died…or he left you for someone else.

The end is the same. You are now alone and maybe a bit scared of what’s out there for you.

Alone is not terminal no matter how painful this time in your life is.

Sometimes you need to squeeze that lemon and get creative.

This could be the time you need to revamp, rediscover and remake yourself into the person you always wanted to be.

Sure is isn’t going to be a cake walk but, what in life worth doing is.

You are about to enter the word of being alone without feeling lonely.

How exciting is that?  ( did she just say that? )

Yes.   Now you can devote all your energy in building a new you, a new look, a new way of looking at things and get back into a social life that you have probably not had in years.

There you will discover a new and exciting place to be in..

If you wish to email me any personal questions please to go  datingafter50plus@gmail.com

Gentlemen this applies to you as well..

If you prefer leave your questions and comments here to share.

Happy New Year 2013

Marie

 

 

Its Too Friggin Hard


Too friggin  hard?  Did you really think It would be easy?

Stop being a crybaby.

OK well that may be a little too harsh.

How about grow up. Try and face the challenge.

What may have started as just a bit of too much “stuff”  has now grown to such proportions you can’t manage it, right?

You liked this or that and had to have it. I know that feeling. Hey remember I was a frog and turtle junkie.

Junkie?  Yep.  Use to collect  them  till they overtook the place.

I use to wash them, and rearrange them  every week or so until one day the bell…DING-DONG  went off.

I am hoping that you are here because the bell went off for you as well.

I know, I know you want to surround yourself with all your things. You can’t bare to part with them. Yada , yada yada..

There are things you love  and cherish and some you don’t  but it has gotten so out of hand an  your overwhelmed and that’s understandable.

 

I’m not talking to you to make you feel guilty.

Hell I was doing the same thing some years back.

Getting pissed off with my friends had gotten to the point that I wouldn’t even speak to them for weeks at a time.

Guilty has no role in my conversation, that’s not what I am doing here.

We are  talking  as if I were sitting in your kitchen over a cup of tea.  I am being as honest and frank with you as I can be.

Besides  guilt serves no purpose at all. You hear that?

Guilt serves no purpose.

Get the idea out of your head that it has any role in your helping yourself get out of the chaos.

It doesn’t.

Its not going to prompt you to clean up or stop accumulating things.

Just like knowing why you save everything serves no, or little purpose in helping you get rid of the junk.

If your letting friends,neighbors and relatives guilt you into clear up the mess you need to STOP  them right now.

You know and I know that until you are good and ready to spend the time and effort into cleaning up , its not going to get done PERIOD.

Disposophobia is not impossible to overcome.

Many people  have the desire to surround themselves with the things they love and hate to part with them. Its when it grows to such a state that your life is changed by it that  the red flag goes up.

I have already shown you some steps you can take to help yourself.

Have you begun yet?  What’s stopping you?

No baby talk here, we are all adults and the bull crap stops here.

You need to start now.

No excuses. Really….

If no one knows about your challenge that means you haven’t had company over to your house in a very long time.

You have kept this secret too long.

Think about how it would feel if you could share that with someone that wouldn’t  judge you.

Coming to me to talk or leaving a message is a simple way to start.

Drop me an email at hoardnot@yahoo.com

Isn’t it time you let someone know that your facing a challenge and can’t do it alone?

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